Congrats on the marriage! And that whole over-identifying with work identity...so real. I dropped my "coach" identity over the past year, and have found it so freeing to just be me...a writer...about stuff. A religious leader I really respect had his profession (world-renowned heart surgeon) #5 on his list with his family roles being 1-2, then child of God. I remember that often and it's been further liberating to have even my beloved writer identity be #4 or 5
Hi Emily! Thank you so much for your thoughts, I enjoyed reading them.
Wow, dropping your coach identity?! I don't know how I'd manage to do that, haha! Mad respect. Between you, me, and whoever sees this... I would not be mad if my next career was writer/author, like you. Although now that I type that out, I think I'd really miss coaching. It is genuinely a craft that I love and get schooled by all the time.
Oo child of God. I'm Buddhist but that still appeals to me. I might call it something like "baby of the universe".
I look forward to my crone/wise grandma years when many of my identities will slough off and I will just be... love.
Oooo...and I enjoyed reading your thoughts in response.
My best friend is a coach and loves it, and we need some cool, non-stuffy coaches like you and her. It was surprisingly hard for me to let go of the label, until I saw how I still get to help people through my books, and those who want to get customized help can always work with me. But instead of working with me as a coach, they're working with me as an ex-corporate author who's done a lot of things they want to do (paid off debt/figured out how to love money management, write a book, traveled solo for 2 years, done improv, start a biz, leave a soul-sucking job, bet on themselves, start a Substack, etc.). That was helpful to type out in fewer than 1,000 words ;)
Your Buddhist equivalent is dear. Whichever term, we're held by Love!
You are so cool!! I'm so happy the magic of the internet has us crossing paths. Your courage and life choices are truly inspiring. I feel their energy jumping off the screen. Let's keep in touch here on Substack! :)
Aww Ved, I'm so sorry you had to go through that too. Yes, it does throw off everything. Made me really aware of how precious and fragile a life and even just a daily routine is. How was it for you?
Jacquelin! It's so lovely to meet you and connect over Substack.
Two strokes?! I'm so terribly sorry that happened to you. I can totally relate to the "dump truck" hit. I was just going about my business, literally, and had a lot of todos holding up my entire life. Keeping things going, supposedly moving forward.
I can't imagine how terrified and grief-stricken you must have been. To have things just stop abruptly like that. To have what you took to be in order (your health) suddenly be anything but.
I actually experienced a brain event of sorts as well. Wow, I'm really glad you messaged. I have also downgraded work from #2 to some other number! It'll take a long time, possibly never, to not care about work. But what a lesson the universe hurled our way.
I hope you are much better now, back at it or in even better spirits and state. And I hope you stay well.
Congratulations on your nuptials, to you and your sweetheart!! A desert wedding sounds gorgeous (was it at sunset?)
Hmm good clarifying question. I don’t think I want to not care about work. I do care about it. I’m not sure what I’m after. Maybe it’s along the lines of having my brand be my name and yet holding it lightly.
Rooting for you. And to better days in 2026! 🍀
Thank you so much, Linda! Really enjoy your LI posts.
she's back!!!! always here for you and so generous to gift a discovery coaching call <3
Hi lovey!!! You’re the best. When are you moving back to the Bay? Sooner kthx
Congrats on the marriage! And that whole over-identifying with work identity...so real. I dropped my "coach" identity over the past year, and have found it so freeing to just be me...a writer...about stuff. A religious leader I really respect had his profession (world-renowned heart surgeon) #5 on his list with his family roles being 1-2, then child of God. I remember that often and it's been further liberating to have even my beloved writer identity be #4 or 5
Hi Emily! Thank you so much for your thoughts, I enjoyed reading them.
Wow, dropping your coach identity?! I don't know how I'd manage to do that, haha! Mad respect. Between you, me, and whoever sees this... I would not be mad if my next career was writer/author, like you. Although now that I type that out, I think I'd really miss coaching. It is genuinely a craft that I love and get schooled by all the time.
Oo child of God. I'm Buddhist but that still appeals to me. I might call it something like "baby of the universe".
I look forward to my crone/wise grandma years when many of my identities will slough off and I will just be... love.
Oooo...and I enjoyed reading your thoughts in response.
My best friend is a coach and loves it, and we need some cool, non-stuffy coaches like you and her. It was surprisingly hard for me to let go of the label, until I saw how I still get to help people through my books, and those who want to get customized help can always work with me. But instead of working with me as a coach, they're working with me as an ex-corporate author who's done a lot of things they want to do (paid off debt/figured out how to love money management, write a book, traveled solo for 2 years, done improv, start a biz, leave a soul-sucking job, bet on themselves, start a Substack, etc.). That was helpful to type out in fewer than 1,000 words ;)
Your Buddhist equivalent is dear. Whichever term, we're held by Love!
You are so cool!! I'm so happy the magic of the internet has us crossing paths. Your courage and life choices are truly inspiring. I feel their energy jumping off the screen. Let's keep in touch here on Substack! :)
Relate to the health issues during last year (unfortunately) - they can throw you off pretty bad
and congrats with getting married :)
Aww Ved, I'm so sorry you had to go through that too. Yes, it does throw off everything. Made me really aware of how precious and fragile a life and even just a daily routine is. How was it for you?
Thank you so much :)
Hope you recover well Kat! 🥺
Thanks Becky! I am all better now, thankfully :) Congrats on the new gig!
…down to hang and catch up whenver, most importantly share those amazing mountain photos and congratulations :)…
FIs! Yeah dude, hope you've been well. Thank you so much! And moreover thank you because I wrote this post this morning at your gym!!
Jacquelin! It's so lovely to meet you and connect over Substack.
Two strokes?! I'm so terribly sorry that happened to you. I can totally relate to the "dump truck" hit. I was just going about my business, literally, and had a lot of todos holding up my entire life. Keeping things going, supposedly moving forward.
I can't imagine how terrified and grief-stricken you must have been. To have things just stop abruptly like that. To have what you took to be in order (your health) suddenly be anything but.
I actually experienced a brain event of sorts as well. Wow, I'm really glad you messaged. I have also downgraded work from #2 to some other number! It'll take a long time, possibly never, to not care about work. But what a lesson the universe hurled our way.
I hope you are much better now, back at it or in even better spirits and state. And I hope you stay well.
Congratulations on your nuptials, to you and your sweetheart!! A desert wedding sounds gorgeous (was it at sunset?)
Hmm good clarifying question. I don’t think I want to not care about work. I do care about it. I’m not sure what I’m after. Maybe it’s along the lines of having my brand be my name and yet holding it lightly.